In a Facebook thread started by guitar tech Brian Diaz (guitar tech for the likes of Guns N' Roses and Fall Out Boy) earlier this week meant to confront Lacey’s alleged inappropriate behavior, Nicole Elizabeth Garey claims “he solicited nudes from me starting when I was 15 and he was 24.”
Read Garey’s full comments below:
“YES. He solicited nudes from me starting when I was 15 and he was 24. Manipulated the hell out of me, demanded specific poses/settings/clothing, demeaned me, and made it clear that my sexuality was the only thing I had to offer. He knew what he was doing was shitty so he wouldn’t touch me until I was 19. I should’ve known better by then, but he had screwed me up so much psychologically that all I wanted was his approval. It fucked me up to the point that I STILL have nightmares and wakeup in a sweat. I still breakdown and have panic attacks when people play Brand New in a bar. JESSE LACEY IS A PIECE OF SHIT.
And I will tell this story over and over and over and over.
And thanks, again, for continually bringing it up. Because I’ve lost friends - male and female - because they think that what he did to me has no bearing on his music. As if those songs are not all about him being a fucking creep.
Yeah, unfortunately I didn’t realize that until I was around 25 and had spent some time in rehab. It’s still hard for me to write this or re-read it and not say “I thought I was smarter than that.” I know deep down that it’s more complicated, but it’s just gut-wrenching to even think about. How did I allow that to keep happening? Why didn’t I speak up sooner? I was a kid, but like all teenagers, I thought I was an adult. I was very wrong.
And he did tell me he deleted them a couple of weeks after we talked. That’s why he kept asking for more. That’s how I know he knew what he was doing.
OH AND YES HE MADE ME WATCH HIM MASTURBATE ON SKYPE. Apparently that’s a common thing with sexual predators. I took screen shots at some point, they’re probably on a computer in my basement if I ever really wanted to rehash my past that much (I don’t think I do).
Garey says she met Lacey in 2002 at a holiday show in Buffalo, New York. At the time, she was 15 years old and Lacey was 24. Garey explained that the frontman gave her his email address after he spotted her taking photos of the band and wanted copies of the photos. They continued emailing back and forth after she sent the photos, eventually moving their interactions to AOL Instant Messenger and then to Skype.
“When I was younger, I was really flattered,” she tells AltPress. “I was like, ‘Oh, it’s an older guy in a band that I like.’ I wasn’t used to the attention.”
Garey alleges she was 15 years old when Lacey began requesting nude photos via AIM and that years later he exposed himself over Skype. She says she and Lacey kept in touch, off and on, for “about seven or eight years.”
It wasn’t until she turned 24 herself, she says, that she realized something was strange about the interactions with the frontman.
“You reach this age, and you’re like, ‘Who would do that?’ Looking back at that when I was 15, it’s just a very stark difference,” she says. “So it hit me, and that’s when it really started to spiral for me, realizing the implications that something was wrong.”
Garey says she attended rehab in 2010 after she began drinking heavily.
“I needed to get my head back on straight because I didn’t know where it came from or why I was getting out of control,” she says. “So I went to rehab around 2010, and it helped me see things a little more clearly and see why I was drinking and why I was getting out of control. It all kind of circled back; I remember these little things and they all added up. A lot of people [in rehab] had the same kind of stories, not quite as long or not quite as understated, I guess. They’d all been sexually abused in some way, and it helps to put it into perspective and see that what was happening was not a normal thing.”
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